Best Man Boot Camp by Wedding Speech Guru

A nationwide survey* commissioned by Wedding Speech Guru, reveals that Britain could be heading towards a shortage of best men. Almost half of the UK male population – 43% – would consider turning down the opportunity to be best man because they are so nervous about the prospect of making a speech.

And their nerves would seem to be well-founded. Almost three quarters (74%) of the 2,000 people questioned said that speeches can make or break the wedding. And 79% say that they feel sorry for the best man because of the pressure the speech brings…
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Nearly six out of ten (56%) said that they have heard embarrassing and inappropriate wedding speeches, over a third (35%) have been to weddings ruined by drunken speeches and a third of 18-34 year olds are ashamed of their wedding speech.

 
With so many best men getting it wrong, Wedding Speech Guru is organising Best Men Boot Camp – a workshop to help men talk about a bridegroom with truth and humour, rather than embarrass him with cheap jokes.

 
“What many best men don’t realise is that rather than embarrassing the groom, the main purpose of their speech is to commend their friend to the guests,” said Robin Bayley, author and founder of Wedding Speech Guru. Once wedding guests see that a speech is coming from a place of love and respect, they are much more likely to respond with laughter.

 
At the boot camp, which is being held in central London on July 16th, the best men will learn how to gather their material, hone it into stories that illustrate the groom’s character, and practise delivery in front of the other best men.

 
But if best men aren’t willing to step up to the plate, it seems that women are. One in five – 20% – of UK weddings have best women rather than best men. Women are judged to make better, less cringe-worthy speeches, less likely to get drunk and also to steer clear of rude jokes about the bride.

 
62% of Londoners think that it should be normal for women to make wedding speeches, and 57% said that women are more natural because men try too hard to be funny. Nationally 53% of 24-34 year olds believe that women’s wedding speeches are better than men’s.

 
*Nationwide survey by Populus, March 2016. 2,000 respondents, aged 18+

 

Wedding Speech Guru was founded by author, life coach and serial best man, Robin Bayley.

Wedding Speech Guru’s mission is to ensure that speeches honour the bride and groom and come from a place of affection and emotional truth. Alongside group workshops, such as Best Man Boot Camp Wedding Speech Guru provides tailor made, one-to-one speech coaching for anyone making a wedding speech. Robin helped to set up Wedding TV in 2008 and is a registered minister, licensed to conduct weddings in California. He has just been asked to be best man for the sixth time.

For more information contact Robin
07985919856
robin@weddingspeechguru.co.uk
or visit
www.weddingspeechguru.co.uk

Post written by Robin Bayley and publised on ukcelebrant.co.uk

Mahsa and Mamad’s Wedding at Syon Park

Last weekend I had the absolute honour of officiating the marriage of Mahsa and Mamad at South West London’s Samantha Kelsie Wedding Celebrant at Syon Park Londongorgeous venue Syon House and Park.

Mahsa and Mamad originate from Iran, and already officiated their marriage in a traditional Iranian ceremony with their families back at the end of last year. However, the pair have lived and worked in central London for over 10 years now, and so this weekend, following a quick registrar ceremony in the morning, this beautiful couple underwent a third ceremony in the glorious Great Hall of the house, with myself as their celebrant.

Although many of the guests had travelled from Iran, Austria, Canada, the US (and some even made their way out of central London on a Saturday!!), Mahsa and Mamad wanted this ceremony to be ‘typically British’ in tradition, so together we planned and wrote a simple script which incorporated a declaration of intent, traditional C of E wedding vows, and an exchanging of wedding rings. Of course, we still included the personal touches too… that’s what makes it a celebrant ceremony after all!

Mahsa looked just beautiful in her dress, and her bridesmiads all wore lilac. They were each escorted down the aisle in the historic manor hall by an usher, to greet the nervous groom. Three ceremonies in, you’d think he’d have been ised to this by now, but certainly third time’s a charm and this was the final, and most meaningful, moment to say ‘I do!’

Syon Park Wedding Celebrant Samantha Kelsie

It was a joy to be part of this lovely couple’s wedding day, and to enjoy spending a few hours in such a beautiful setting too. I can not thank the team at Syon House for being so very welcoming and accomodating on the day, and am so grateful for the gorgeous feedback received from them afterwards too:

“Dear Samantha,

We really enjoyed working with you at Syon Park last weekend. [Our event coordinators] found your sensitive and thoughtful approach very helpful – and your ceremony was lovely.

Head of Functions and Events – Syon Park”

To see all of their magic…


Last week, I led a funeral service for an elderly woman who was very much loved, but who sadly had suffered from dementia for the last chapter of her life.

Incidentally, and by coincidence, last week was also Dementia Awareness week in the UK, and so I thought I would share this little thought with you:

To love a person is to see all of their magic, and to remind them of it when they have forgotten.

I am so honoured to have been able to help the family last week to remember that magic if not for their mother’s memory, but at least for their own personal reminder of the reasons they were there to say goodbye… the reason she was loved, as she was. 

Really though, I think this quote rings true for many of us. Not just for those with Dementia, but for anyone who should ever forget, even just for a moment, how truly magical and loved we all are. Sometimes, we each just need that little reminder too… 
Words by Samantha Kelsie. Quote and image taken from Pinterest.